Throughout the talk, Alice consistently underscored the necessity of establishing clear and candid communication, even when it feels uncomfortable. This communication should extend to instances where an intimate act is not enjoyed. In these moments, she suggested partners acknowledge the discomfort, express gratitude for the communicated boundary, and check-in with one another to determine the next steps.
In discussing BDSM, Alice emphasized the critical importance of discussing boundaries, limits, and medical histories before engagement.
Alice addressed the issue of “dead bedrooms” or relationships where intimacy has dwindled. She advised individuals facing this challenge to evaluate their desire to improve the situation. She encouraged open conversation about changes in sexual preferences or situations, such as post-childbirth changes, and suggested planning for sex if spontaneous intimacy was challenging.
Addressing the role of porn in shaping sexual preferences, Alice urged caution against attempting to recreate scenes from adult films without understanding each other’s comfort levels. Instead, she suggested using such imagery as a tool for for opening a dialogue about individual likes and dislikes.
She closed her discussion by emphasizing the value of a curious, open-minded approach to intimacy. After the talk, questions were taken from the audience, further enriching the conversation about sexual communication and intimacy.